Family Should Never Be Judgemental
A very famous dialogue from the Bollywood movie ”English Vinglish”! How much can it be practical; when we are seeing families who always have some form of opinions to share? Most of the time, the sentiments convert into judgments eventually.
Who are judgemental people? It’s simple.
Jumping to conclusions without a second thought.
Un-trusting and suspecting people coming in contact.
Demeaning the person or ideas or situations.
Guessing everyone needs to be consistent at all times.
Entailing the intolerance for unlike people.
Magnifying the inner critics and judging everything.
Eliminating the beauty and virtues in others.
Nagging with harsh and antagonistic comments.
Thinking and putting everyone in a good or bad category.
Averting the uncertainty and ambiguity.
Lacking optimism and is pessimistic.
Everyone does one or more from above, which can be quantified from least to utmost. So when we are talking about family here, there can be some family members; who are being judgemental to other members including ourselves, differing in the magnitude. Whenever it comes to family, we tend to be protective, defensive and invasive. This is considered to be the natural reaction of mankind for their own family, which is remarkably cute and neat to watch from the distance. Isn’t it?
Being a part of the family drama is often toilsome, but worth accepting the role of a family member in this life drama. Why? Because the family can only bring out the best from us and fabricates us to be even better people if we are fortunate to get a family like mine.
How does it accomplish such an intricate task of remodeling us by being constant exponents?
— Is it by planting and then nurturing the seed of something in our mind by constantly asking about the seed’s growth?
— Is it by acknowledging to all our opinions and feats?
— Is it by disputing against our ideas and reprimanding our fruitless actions?
— Is it by demeaning us and our strategies that we make to achieve our goals?
— Is it by appreciating our simple and easy or complicated and hard performances?
— Is it by pushing our limits and making us cross that colorful streaks of many successes?
— Is it by criticizing the moves that we make in different phases of our life?
— Is it by being judgemental for the sake of our own good?
For most of us, if we take a moment to think, there might be yes with the personal scenario in our thought cloud after each question except the last one. We all have witnessed that the family does all the above in different circumstances, to a certain extent. Should we consider them being judgemental while doing unlimited contributions in making our life fascinating? I don’t think so. Why? Because if I think so then I would be judgemental too. We concede that we love our family; despite the visible flaws or shortcomings. My spiritual gurus perpetually ask us to look at one’s virtue and ignore the hundred faults. That is what family should be doing and take out the best from us while ignoring the worst.
“Family is assembled through natal;
With diverse organs that are vital…
Flaws and mistakes are congenital;
Though might not remain rudimental…
If family relay is clear as crystal;
Then the relations stay immortal…
Putting all efforts to be committal;
As members are not available on rental…
Family should never be judgmental;
As family is not supplemental…”
This can definitely help to put the title in practice and make it worth saying “Family Should Never Be Judgmental.”